Couples & Intimate Partners

I work with couples and people in intimate partnerships to consider what your relationship might be asking of you at this point in your lives. Through therapy, we might consider relationship ‘problems/crises’ as soulful ‘opportunities’ to explore meaning, growth and healing potential between you, rather than pursuing attempts to fix and cure.

It takes courage to come to therapy. You needn’t be in the height of crisis. You’re welcome whether your relationship is new, in transition, potentially ending, to consider values, commitment and alignment. You’re welcome if you need to explore boundaries and differentiation so you have a safe enough space for your bodies to find language to communicate and be heard in your truths. We might consider what the relationship might be seeking to teach you, alongside your longing and hopes.

However you conceive of your relationship structure, whether polyamorous, monogamous, non-monogamous, for example, my practice allows you space to explore your relationship and its dynamics. You are welcome whether you’re a couple, lovers, polycule, friends, married, fuck-buddies, in a long-distance relationship, open relationship, and so on

Through exploring your love/relationship story, we might explore some (or more) of the following dynamics:

• trust and mistrust
• experiences of (or lack of) intimacy, contrasting sexual desires, sexless relationships, loss of attraction, intimacy, erotic connection/disconnection,
• the impact of infidelities, resentments, betrayals and abuse
• aggression and anger
• the impact of money, achievements, status, career
• compulsions and what these might defend against within the relationship
• dynamics around conflict and the lack of it
• cultural, racial/interracial, spiritual, religious, political complexities
• secrecy and shame
• jealousy, envy and hatred
• explorations around gender, sexuality, wishes to adapt the relationship structure
• whether you have children, don’t have children, have mixed feelings about having or are wanting them
• taking ownership of feelings, rather than blaming and attacking
• assumptions and interpretations
• health and mobility dynamics
• age differences
• what’s being evoked from the past, the impact on the present and what you’re being called towards
• experiences of separation, bonding, connection and distances and their impact upon your relating, contrasting attachment styles, fluid and static states of connection and disconnection
• mediating power, autonomy and vulnerability
• the impact of your similarities and differences
• lack of vitality and frustration
• repression
• when you’ve drifted apart and become too busy for the relationship

Fee: £120